What to Wear to a Wedding (Without Overthinking It)
Every so often, I get the same text.
“Hey, got a wedding coming up. What should I wear?”
The answer depends, of course. But not as much as most people think.
So today, a few quick rules of thumb to help you dress for the occasion—without second-guessing everything in your closet.
Weddings aren’t about being the best-dressed man in the room.
They’re about being the most appropriate one.
Respectful. Intentional. Present.
Here’s how to get that right.
When in doubt, wear a suit.
Even if the invite says “dressy casual.” Even if the groom is your college roommate. A well-fitted suit never offends. It shows you cared enough to elevate.
Skip black unless it’s black tie.
A navy, mid-gray, or seasonal tone (like soft tan or olive) feels celebratory, not corporate. You want to look festive—not like you're heading into a board meeting or a funeral.
Soft tailoring wins the day.
Think lighter construction, breathable fabrics, and quiet elegance. Nothing too structured, it’s not a board meeting. Summer weddings call for tropical wools, linen blends, or seersucker. Fall and winter? Flannel, brushed cotton, or cashmere blends.
Shine through your shirt and tie.
Crisp white or soft blue for the shirt. Don’t go too expressive with the tie: I prefer solids with texture, or a small pattern (avoid novelty prints unless you're in Vegas).
Shoes matter. So does the belt.
Oxfords or loafers. Well-maintained. A leather belt that matches. Done.
Grooming is part of the outfit.
Trimmed beard. Clean nails. Neatly styled hair. You don’t need a new face, just a little polish.
When the dress code is black tie...
Do it properly. Tux. Bow tie. Black shoes. No room for shortcuts here, it’s a uniform for a reason. And if it’s “black tie optional,” stick with the tuxedo if you can.
In summary, wear something that fits well, feels natural, and respects the tone of the day.
Because well-dressed men at weddings don’t draw attention.
They fit the moment.
See you on the dance floor.
–DW